10 Selfish Decisions That Are Okay to Make in College
Moving to college was so much more for me than just taking some classes to earn a degree. It meant a sense of freedom that I didn’t feel once in my entire 18 years of living, and I definitely wanted to take advantage of the opportunity.
I grew up in a stable household – very stable. I am so grateful for that and for everything that my parents have given me, but my entire life was based around practical decisions and – ultimately – decisions that they thought were best for me.
My decision on where to attend college wasn’t even completely mine. My parents were extremely vocal in their opinions, and the school that I currently go to was the only school that they didn’t tell me “no” on. You can find more on what I would’ve done differently when making this decision in a later post.
When I moved into school I wasn’t quick to make choices that my parents wouldn’t approve on. I was in a major that would’ve made me a ton of money after I graduate, but would’ve also probably made me miserable. It wasn’t until the end of the semester when I realized that if I didn’t start making choices that would allow me to live the life I want, I would probably never get the chance to. Your years in college are limited and they go by fast. Don’t let anyone in your life stop you from making absolutely every decision on your own. This is such an amazing time to grow and to learn more about yourself, so anyone in your life making this difficult should not be in your life at all.
At the end of the day, you are your biggest form of support. You are in charge of your happiness, and you need to make the tough decisions that will allow you to be happy for the rest of your life. There are so many opportunities in college that are “unconventional” and that your parents, or some of the other people in your life, probably won’t approve of, but that definitely does not mean you shouldn’t take them when you get the chance! You deserve to be as selfish as possible in college, and you deserve to live the life you dream of!
Here are 10 completely selfish decisions that are OK to make when you’re in college – I hope this list inspires you to take your life into your own hands!
- Moving away from home. When I was deciding on schools, my parents seemed extremely saddened any time I even brought up the idea of going far away to study. If I had to do it again, I would’ve at least explored my options in an area away from PA.
- Breaking up with a high school boyfriend. Moving away to college IS a good excuse for a breakup. It definitely does not mean that you are doing this to find a new guy when you get there, and you shouldn’t let your bf make this assumption about you. Breaking up with him gives you the freedom to grow personally without having to come home on the weekends to visit.
- Transferring schools. If you go to a college and realize it isn’t for you, don’t think of anyone’s feelings other than yours. I know this sounds bad, because you probably made a ton of friends during your first year, but I promise you if they’re really your friends, they will support your decision.
- Finding a new friend group. It is completely OK to branch out and find new people to hangout with. Having more than one friend group is completely possible, and doing this in college is an awesome way to find out more about yourself.
- Spending time alone. Why does no one understand that sometimes you just don’t want to do anything? Or maybe you do want to do something, but you want to do it alone. That is completely OK. Lately I’ve been loving going to the mall alone & going on dates with my laptop to cafes. Your time is valuable and you should spend it how you want!
- Taking a semester off. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’ll never go back to school after doing this. There are so many reasons to consider taking some time for yourself, and you’ll save yourself a lot of wasted money by doing so. A degree will come to you on your own terms, so don’t think that it isn’t possible.
- How you choose to spend your summer. You have an awesome summer job that you really enjoy, and you don’t want to look for an internship? Don’t. You have your entire life to do work related to your major, and you’re allowed to spend your college summers how you want. Believe it or not, the summer after graduation still can be spent at an internship. There is no “right way” to choose how to live your life.
- How you choose to spend your weekends. Freshman year, especially at the beginning, I definitely felt some pressure to go out on the weekends. If all of your friends are, but you don’t want to, opt to stay behind and pick them up when they need it. College is stressful, and going out every weekend isn’t for anyone. Don’t feel obligated to just because your friends are – there will always be another party!
- Choosing not to share your personal life with friends/family. College is such a weird time in your life because your friends are people that you haven’t known for very long, and your family probably doesn’t know any of them. It’s OK to not share everything about your past with your friends, and its OK to not share everything about whats going on at college with your family. The awesome part about this time of your life is that you get to choose how open you are with virtually everyone in your life, so take advantage of that.
- Finding opportunities outside of your comfort zone. Don’t let anyone make you feel uncomfortable for doing this. You might find an interest that you would’ve never thought about if you didn’t try something new! There are so many out-of-the-box opportunities in college through clubs, greek life, and events held by your campus. Don’t be afraid to try something new!
The cost of an education is so worth it if you use it to your full advantage! There are so many awesome opportunities in these years of your life, but sometimes taking advantage of them requires some selfish decisions!